Someone ask me this week to give scripture and God’s Word on should they disconnect from a destructive family member. This is my answer.
This is my 2nd blog concerning Critical & Toxic people, taken from the 3rd chapter in the book I wrote on “Assignments from Hell” Read at your own risk.
It could set you free if you are brave enough to believe it.
Take a stand against the toxic and hurtful things people do against you, that are against the life that God wants to create in you. This is one of the most powerful and spiritual things that you can do for yourself. You must be a creation of God and not a creation of man. God is leading us to stand against bad things. This is what He does, and it is what He tells us to do.
The Bible warns us to avoid difficult, sinful people and shun their sinful behavior. It’s time to steer clear of people who can destroy the life that God wants to create in us. Many people are happy and satisfied with their lives until someone tells them they are unhappy and dissatisfied.
King David said this in Psalms 101:3-7. The deeds of faithless men I hate; they will not cling to me. Men of perverse heart shall be far from me; I will have nothing to do with evil. My eyes will be on the faithful in the land, that they may dwell with me; he whose walk is blameless will minister to me. No one who practices deceit will dwell in my house; no one who speaks falsely will stand in my presence.
David was pretty strong here. This scripture should set you free. He said they will not cling to me, they will not minister to me, and they will not live with me. Now we are hearing from a man that was anointed as King over Israel and intended to stay King.
You know David loved God, and was a man after God’s own heart. Yet, this faithful servant of God avoided certain kinds of people so that they would not cling to him. In I Corinthians 15:33 Paul says the same thing by urging us to avoid certain people because they would corrupt us. Look back at verse eleven and he says not even to eat with these people who are hypocritical, saying they act spiritual but deny Christian living by their behavior. Jesus even told us not to give what is holy to dogs or to cast our pearls before swine. (Matthew 7:6) Let’s bring this up to date. Don’t even sit on your couch with someone that is toxic and critical and sinful. You are putting your costly life that Jesus bought and paid for in a hog pen. I refuse to put my anointing in a hog pen with the hogs that doesn’t mind destroying marriages or place my okay on them with my presence at their get togethers. Psalms 1 explicitly states not to sit in the seat of the scornful, or walk in the counsel of the ungodly. How much plainer can it be.
Relationships are capable of doing great good, but also of doing great harm. Solomon said this, “a righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 13:20.
Most people would be a lot further down the road of development if they would have done the following things.
ØAvoid angry, rebellious and toxic people altogether.
ØTake a strong stand against the hurtful things in a toxic and angry relationship and mean it.
ØSeparate yourselves from people who have destructive patterns and are unwilling to change despite many loving efforts.
ØLeave subtractors and dividers alone and join yourself to adders and multipliers that will give you the strength to do the right thing.
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